The secret to forgiveness

If you rely on the dictionary, you probably believe forgiving is something you do to someone else. They do something wrong. You get to forgive them.

If you live with others, at some point no doubt, you’ve said those precious words: “I forgive you.” You’ve let the other off the hook and, maybe, you got to feel better about yourself.

I invite you to take another look at forgiveness. Continue reading “The secret to forgiveness”

General manager of the universe

This is a popular position we’re all busy filling, or so it seems.

As general manager of the universe, you get to call the shots, arrange things to suit your agenda, and take the credit when things turn out. You also get to dish out the blame when things do not go according to plan. Continue reading “General manager of the universe”

Give yourself the gift of silence

Gift of silenceMost of us are convinced we don’t have the time to give ourselves the luxury of doing nothing.

Our social conditioning tells us that sitting in a chair, doing nothing, is a waste of time.

The challenge is to sit without thinking and become aware that there is more to being than the flow of thoughts across the screen of your mind.


Think or Sink

“It is scary to think that it is our choices that dictate our happiness. Accepting this responsibility means giving up our excuses, our reasons and our justifications. And that feels vulnerable. And vulnerable doesn’t feel safe. But I offer that taking back the power from your circumstances is worth the “vulnerability” because the reward of getting your power back is the very thing you are trying to accomplish by attempting to control your circumstances.

Imagine if your happiness wasn’t dependent on getting anything, changing anyone or eradicating any circumstance. Imagine if you could be happy regardless of what happens to you. Wouldn’t you be just a teeny bit interested in finding out how that might work?”

From Think or Sink. The one choice that changes everything by Gina Mollicone-Long. You can check out Gina and get more details on the book at

Another perspective on the power of choice. If you want to make conscious choices, instead of following the default choices of your conditioning, you need to put some new tools into your toolkit and start using them.

This book has some useful tools to get you started.

I’m making a suggestion. You get to choose whether you do anything about it.

Who’s driving your car?

If you’re like me, you have a voice inside your head. A voice that sometimes tells you that you’re dumb or stupid or wrong, that you’re not good at anything.

At other times, that same voice tells you that you’re better than others, that you deserve it, that you’re a genius. Ever wondered where all those opinions come from? Are any of them actually your opinion of yourself? Continue reading “Who’s driving your car?”

A story

We all have a story that we use to describe ourselves to ourselves and to each other. If you know my story you know me, right?

You already know my name. If I tell you that I was born in Booleroo Centre, a small town in, what the locals call, the mid-north of South Australia, and spent the first three years of this lifetime living, with my parents and their expanding family, in the school house of a tiny rural hamlet on the edge of the Flinders Ranges, does that tell you anything about who I am? Continue reading “A story”

Start from where you are

It’s mind-blowing to contemplate the vastness of a journey across the cosmos that began before time. So mind-blowing as to be incredible, and possibly so far removed from your present reality as to be meaningless.

Yet such a picture can offer you a much larger canvas to play on if you can entertain the possibility that there is more to your life than what you have so far been led to believe. Continue reading “Start from where you are”

The journey

A few thoughts you might like to ponder about life, the universe, and the journey we‘re on. If you’re game.

Most of us are aware of the journey that starts with birth and ends with death. If you identify yourself with your body, death is the end of the road. No surprises there. Continue reading “The journey”